The goal of every Christian father should be to reflect the nature and love of our heavenly Father to his children and train them up in righteousness, he should desire to “be the Father” to his children.
This Father’s Day the father in our home is grieving the departure of a precious child he spent much time “being the Father” to. He loved her with an unquenchable love, he sacrificed daily for her, he prayed over her for 17 years, he gently guided her day in and day out, and without hesitation would have gladly laid down his life in exchange for hers on June 8th.
A few days after the accident we were blessed to discover among some of Sarah’s treasures a sealed envelope with “To My Future Husband” scrolled on the front. We decided as a family we should open and read it. Inside were 3 pages neatly folded and labeled “Part 1”, “Part 2” and “Part 3”.
Part 1 reads as follows:
March 31, 2015
Dear Future Husband,
If you’re reading this, then that means I’m engaged, which is a really exciting thought. It’s also a scary thought that maybe no one will ever read this letter. (Which would mean I would be single forever!)
What I want in you
I want you to be a leader and a provider. I want you to be the head of the family. I want you to be the father to my children. I want you to be a loving husband and father who always wants to spend time with his family. I want you to be a strong caretaker and be gentle. I want you to be like my Daddy….. But when it all comes down to it, I want you to be a man after God’s own heart.
Sarah understood who Scott is, and what he is, and she would settle for nothing less. Beneath Scott’s quiet, gentle nature and unassuming presence lies a meek yet mighty man of God, a bit like his precious daughter who has been talked a lot about this week. He is all Sarah saw in him and more. Today I celebrate the blessing of being his partner in this life and the richness of having him consistently “be the Father” to our children.
As you celebrate this Father’s Day please say a prayer for this special brokenhearted daddy, loved so dearly by all of his girls.